Umm Ang, I think the men are taking a stand . . . . . .

Like you, K, we don't like being victims either.

Now, where did you go and why????

I know K. Holy cow. I hope Dave feels better though.

Could it be the part of the state your in Jeremy? I can send some your way.

Okay, here's a dating trouble. My boyfriend of 7 months has an ex that he's friendly with. I'm okay with that part. But, she needs a place to live. My boyfriend's uncle has an apartment in his house. So, my boyfriend offered the apartment to the ex and she accepted. So now she will be living 1 mile from him and in his uncle's house. This bothers me - am I being irrational?

how far awar does she live now? I'm thinking, in a day and age where you can hop in a car and be anywhere within a few minutes, what would the difference be if she is 10 miles away or a mile away. Now, if she currently lives hours away and is now moving that close, that would be different. Bottom line, you are the only one that can determine whether or not you trust him, how good is your relationship, has he assured you that there is nothing between them?

Doodle, that's the same for me here in Oklahoma. It hurts for me to be awake that long!!!!

And, yes, all the eligible bachellorettes seem to be about 23 or 24 years old.

What's an "old" guy to do?! <sigh>

By the way, Go Broncos!

I went out with a 23 year old guy last night. We went for dinner and drinks and ended up at a party with his friends (talk about feeling old!) We stayed out until 1:30 on a school night and I just haven't functioned well today. I should probably hold out for someone older but I do need to get out of the house occasionally.

I have been looking to BOL for answers to questions, and just general research, for a couple of months now. Every once in a while, aka more often than I would like to admit, I swing by this thread to see what has been happening. And I for one would just like to say its nice to "hear" people voice things I have been wondering about, and been concerned about, myself.

So, as my first ever post, I would like to just say Thanks. Its great to see people coming together. And of course to read the funny stuff...what can I say, it's a hoot.

Bravo Dave for your bad boy speach

And to this: "That may be true, but how many lasting relationships has anyone hear had that started in a bar??"

My sweetie and I met in a bar. Now to be fair, it was a private club, but a bar none the less. We have been together six years and are expecting a little one very very very soon. We have a very lasting relationship, that started over a glass of merlot in a smoky bar in Alaska. How much more "Bar" can you get?

Dave, Bravo! You are absolutely correct. Everyone makes there own decisions, but I frankly many years ago stopped even listening to friends (male or female) who consistently dated "bad boys" or "bad girls" and then complained. It was the same story over and over. Some people thrive on adversity in their lives. I prefer to eliminate "crap" from my life. Life is too short to spend it rolling around in mud, for me.

Not all women, and not all men, prefer the problem types. There are many women who would love to meet a "nice guy". Being friends with a guy first can often lead to a more lasting relationship. You get to know what a person is truly like, and see how they react in many different situations.

It takes some people many years to realize that. Others go their whole life preferring problem relationships.

Like anything else, we can't put everyone into one category. There are many different types and different preferences. But there are nice women and nice men. They just often are not as public so are harder to find. I have found that you can meet nice people with similar interests by doing the things you love, volunteering in organizations that you have a true interest in, and so forth. People I want to spend time with may occasionally be AT a bar for a function but will not be hanging out at bars. And I learned that years ago. My 20 something daughter feels the same way. She often goes to bars with groups of friends to socialize with that group, not to meet new people. She is a "nice girl" who doesn't want high maintenance friends. She is too busy to spend her time on the drama others thrive on.

No one is necessarily right or wrong, everyone makes their own choices, but those who choose the bad ones or decide someone is a "nice one" too quickly do need to be more careful. That is just life.

And this is the last time, I hope, that I post in a "dating" thread!

Geez, Cub Dave’s got nerve. I think it’s fair to say there are a lot of women who, at an early age, want someone “dangerous,” at least in a relative way. After some experience with life and some disappointments, many find their ideal described in the words of a country song:

The perfect picture of her white horse prince
Is now dependability and common sense

I couldn’t compete with the bad boys in high school or even college until I became something of a bad boy myself. It’s interesting to become an adult and find that a much greater percentage of your female counterparts are less interested in being entertained and more interested in finding someone they can believe in. It's particularly flattering when a couple of them make it plain you would fill the bill.

Like Kaybee, I’m not likely to reappear here. Unlike some of you, I’m no longer involved in the decision making process.

OMG! You quoted "Dreams"! That is my theme song...it describes me to a T...

Ok, date went fine, I think. However, I think I need to be more specific that an outing is a date near the beginning. We went to a nice restaurant and had some Italian. Then we window shopped for a while then we went home. I wanted to hang out a little longer, but she said she had a headache(good one). She did say she would go out again, so not all is lost.

I'm glad it went well

That's funny, I was having a smart a$$ block and I couldnt figure out what to say about the headache excuse.

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I was having a smart a$$ block

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To my knowledge, DQ doesn't have those. I have no information or belief regarding whether she has headaches.