From your post the house appears to still be part of the estate. Until the court approves the estate to transfer ownership to the family member, or gives authority for the estate to refinance the property you have no legal authority to make a loan to the family member secured by the home. The family member does not yet own it.
You may need to consult your attorney or one that is familiar with your state's estate rules.
This will not be a refinancing, loan not to the same borrower, and it most likely won't be a purchase either unless the family member has to purchase the home from the estate.
Last edited by Dan Persfull; 04/26/12 08:24 PM. Reason: Add comment.
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The opinions expressed are mine and they are not to be taken as legal advice.