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#325428 - 03/14/05 05:46 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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I totally agree with you KC. That guy I wrote about showed up Friday night at my favorite hang out, after I invited him. He played dumb and said, "You're the one that invited me?" I've taken him there many times. After a whole night of not talking to each other and smiling a and making lots of eye contact, he made me play his game. I dont know if he's worth it anymore. I really like him, and want to get to know him, but I dont play games and I dont like that he's making me play his game to get to be with him. UGH, I'm so confused.
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#325429 - 03/14/05 05:50 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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Read the book 'He's Just Not That Into You'. Sounds bad, but the advice is sound (I think - I'm married). You're too good to play these kind of games.
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#325430 - 03/14/05 06:00 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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My philosophy is...if you play hard to get, you aren't gonna get got! (and I don't mean it THAT way!) That cuts both ways. Life is too short to play games.
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#325431 - 03/14/05 06:08 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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I have heard that old line so many times "it is when you aren't looking that you will find someone."




I think actually you should live your life like you will never meet someone. You should enjoy life to its fullest NOW, instead of waiting, as many do, until you find that person. You are much more attractive to a man (or woman) if you are confident, outgoing, and "involved in life" while being single. That is what I think of as hard to get. Your living your life to the fullest and you are going to be hard to get because it is going to take someone very special to look attractive to you when you have so much going for you.

Women (and men) who sulk around and don't "get on with life" because they are waiting for someone to "get on with life" with, do not look attractive to special people. They look desparate and dull.

So, get on with life. Live it to the fullest. Don't turn down opportunities just because you don't have someone special to share them with. Keep your eyes open, but live a life that is so filled with joy that if you did stay single you'd be OK.

I think those single people who aren't living lives that they'd be happy to live without a special someone, usually just are trying.

Don't let life be what happens to you while you are making plans to have someone special to enjoy it with. (And no, this is not a variation of a John Lennon quote--he just "borrowed" it for a song.)

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#325432 - 03/14/05 06:59 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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I've been told to read that book. I dont play games with people so I'm going to be myself. If he doesnt like it, then he can move on. He's an arrogant cocky cop, that I'm too good for, but I always seem to like the things that arent good for me. It's his challenge that keeps me interested dang it!!!!!!!!!!
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#325433 - 03/14/05 11:46 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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Cops, like fraud investigators, are just not worth it!

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#325434 - 03/14/05 11:54 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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Cops, like fraud investigators, are just not worth it!




Hey Puppy Pup, stop listening to your ex!
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#325435 - 03/15/05 12:02 AM Re: Dating Troubles
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Hehe, Leia. Actually, I'm just doling out advice....we're a pain, really. We don't trust anyone. We're hard to live with.

Okay, I'm just kidding....except for the part about the cops.

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#325436 - 03/15/05 12:11 AM Re: Dating Troubles
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Melissa Ann, sweetie, please tell me that you didn't look at my picture (above and to the left) and think to yourself, "That guy would be PERFECT for my mother, because he looks to be about 50 or so."



No, that isn't what I meant, I just think it is funny how my mom complains about how there are no decent guys, and you guys do the same...
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#325437 - 03/15/05 01:13 AM Re: Dating Troubles
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That's because we all just like to complain about it and just don't have the strength to do anything about it.

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#325438 - 03/15/05 01:55 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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NEVER WILL I MARRY
Never never will I marry,
Never never will I wed.
Born to wander solitary,
Wide my world, narrow my bed
Never never never will I marry
Born to wander till I’m dead.
No burdens to bear,
no conscience nor care,
No memories to mourn,
No turning, for I was
Born to wander solitary,
Wide my world, narrow my bed
Never never never will I marry
Born to wander till I’m dead.
Frank Loesser

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#325439 - 03/15/05 03:00 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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Ok, I got this email today and thought of Pup


The CIA had an opening for an assassin. After all of the background
checks, interviews, and testing were done there were three finalists...
Two men and a woman.

For the final test, the CIA agents took one of the men to a large metal
door and handed him a gun. "We must know that you will follow your
instructions, no matter what the circumstances. Inside this room,you
will find your wife sitting in a chair. Kill Her!!!"

The man said, "You can't be serious. I could never shoot my wife." The
agent said, "Then you're not the right man for this job."

The second man was given the same instructions He took the gun and went
into the room. All was quiet for about five minutes. Then the man came
out with tears in his eyes. "I tried, but I can't kill my wife." The
agent said, "You don't have what it takes. Take your wife and go home."


Finally, it was the woman's turn. She was given the same instructions,
to kill her husband. She took the gun and went into the room. Shots were
heard, one shot after another. They heard screaming,crashing, banging on the walls.


After a few minutes, all was quiet.The door opened slowly and there
stood the woman. She wiped the sweat from her brow, and said, "This gun
is loaded with blanks. I had to beat him to death with the chair."


Moral: Women are evil. Don't mess with them
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#325440 - 03/15/05 03:23 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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I can't imagine life without someone. True there are times I just want to be alone, but those are brief and always end with me wanting companionship.

I never really dated when I was single. I went into every relationship hoping it was "the one". Can you believe I am a guy? How embarassing not to live up to the stereo-type. I am humiliated.
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#325441 - 03/15/05 04:15 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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I think with the cop, I'm attracted to, and I havent pegged it yet, but it's either arrogance or confidence. Not sure yet.

That's not sad Sunrider, that's very sweet. There needs to be more guys out there like that.
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#325442 - 03/15/05 04:15 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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Quote:

Ok, I got this email today and thought of Pup


The CIA had an opening for an assassin. After all of the background
checks, interviews, and testing were done there were three finalists...
Two men and a woman.

For the final test, the CIA agents took one of the men to a large metal
door and handed him a gun. "We must know that you will follow your
instructions, no matter what the circumstances. Inside this room,you
will find your wife sitting in a chair. Kill Her!!!"

The man said, "You can't be serious. I could never shoot my wife." The
agent said, "Then you're not the right man for this job."

The second man was given the same instructions He took the gun and went
into the room. All was quiet for about five minutes. Then the man came
out with tears in his eyes. "I tried, but I can't kill my wife." The
agent said, "You don't have what it takes. Take your wife and go home."


Finally, it was the woman's turn. She was given the same instructions,
to kill her husband. She took the gun and went into the room. Shots were
heard, one shot after another. They heard screaming,crashing, banging on the walls.


After a few minutes, all was quiet.The door opened slowly and there
stood the woman. She wiped the sweat from her brow, and said, "This gun
is loaded with blanks. I had to beat him to death with the chair."


Moral: Women are evil. Don't mess with them


You scare me Princess!

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#325443 - 03/15/05 04:23 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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You scare me Princess!




Don't worry, my bark's worse than my bite
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#325444 - 03/15/05 05:52 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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You though of me, eh? Is that because I'd never kill my wife to get a job (I'm a softie) or because my wife would have killed me to get a job?

Angelina, let's hope it's the confidence that you're attracted to rather than the arrogance.

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#325445 - 03/15/05 06:04 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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From what I understand, it's option 2. Gotta look out for those Minnesota girls
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#325446 - 03/15/05 06:31 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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I think with the cop, I'm attracted to, and I havent pegged it yet, but it's either arrogance or confidence. Not sure yet.




Angelina, are you having fun? If so, stay in the game. If not, get out. It took me too many years to discover if a relationship isn't fun and doesn't make you feel good about yourself, it is NOT WORTH IT!

I was single until I was 37 (Yikes!) I always wondered how you knew he was "the one". When I (finally) found my husband, I realized you know he's "the one" when you don't have to play games, you don't worry about where he is when he is not with you, you don't feel the need to snoop, you don't feel like you are the only one trying in a relationship, and finally when you don't feel like you "should" like him when you really don't (if he's a really nice guy).

And of course.... I found him when I decided I would STOP looking!

Playing games can be fun, but only if you know that's all it is.
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#325447 - 03/15/05 06:42 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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Gee Princess I was really interested until you said you don't bite.

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#325448 - 03/15/05 06:48 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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Thanks Spladoodle. Even though it gets confusing, I guess it is fun. It's entertaining, but I'll get tired of the game eventually and move on.
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#325449 - 03/15/05 07:56 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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The games people play stink, I hate them. Dating has gotten very old, very fast. I'm not ready to get married again (only 1 1/2 years out of the last one) but I'm definitely in the mood for a steady boyfriend. I've met a couple of great prospects lately...NOT!
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#325450 - 03/15/05 08:04 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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ImO, (again my opinion) if you are ok with playing games than you are not ready for a steady relationship. Spladoodle said a few things quite well, in regards to knowing "the one". I have dated quite a few people who liked to play games and frankly I don't have time for that. I'm interested in meeting someone who is willing to devote as much time in the relationship as I am. Cheers!
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#325451 - 03/15/05 08:11 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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You want to know what is funny about the whole cop thing and the game playing??? I accused me of playing games, the first time around. I am very forward with people, and DONT play games. He pointed the finger at me, but he's the one playing games. I dont have time for it, but I am interested in him, so maybe he'll quit? Okay no he probably wont.
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#325452 - 03/15/05 08:20 PM Re: Dating Troubles
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No Angelina, he probably won't quit. My guess is that if he knows you are interested he will step it up a notch and really make this frustrating. Been there, done that and it was NEVER worth it to me.
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