Yep, you're working him just right. The less interested you seem, the more he'll pursue. I can already see the game turning around.

I hate playing his game, but it may be worth it in the end. He's hooked.

Haven't we established in this thread that playing games is childish, immature, and just outright dumb? So by "playing his game," you feel that he is going to be hooked. Do you want to hook someone who is like this? Do you want to hook someone who can be hooked by this? I just see red flags popping up all over the place...

I couldn't agree with you more bluebanker. I think that if a person is emotionally mature enough to handle a relationship, none of this immature game playing occurs. If this kind of thing is fun for you too, then yeah go for it, but I wouldn't expect it to develop into much of anything. Someone is going to get bored eventually

Yes Angelina, you're breaking the key rule. If you are going to play games, you have to know that's all it is. You can't get a strong lasting relationship that way. You don't want to hook this one, just have fun.

If you're ready to hook someone, no games are necessary.


(This is Spladoodle, I forgot to log in.)

Spladoodle, I was thinking the same thing.

Things seem different this time, I cant put my finger on it. Not as many games, in the last week or so. Dont know, just going to have fun and go with the flow.

Do y'all have any ideas on how to hook someone that lives several hundred miles away? Neither person can move...

Neither person CAN move or neither person WILL move?

Neither person CAN move. well, maybe one can, but it won't be forced because of the situation.

Long distance relationships are very difficult but I guess it depends on what you are both looking for? Long term committed or casual dating when you are in the same vicinity?

Well, the only reason we would ever be in the same vicinity is to see each other. It's not even a real relationship, yet.

Would a long distance relationship be enough for either one of you? There is a lot to consider in this type of scenario.

Saphire, I'm flattered, but does this mean you're not moving to OK?

yes, sir, that's what it means. You could always move to NM.

Long distance you say? I dated someone that lived in Oahu, Hawaii, and I'm here in Boise, Idaho. That took a lot of trust. We talked every night for about 2 hours a night. It was fun visiting him in Hawaii, and he met me in Vegas a couple times. It was fun, but it didnt pan out to be anything long term.

Now my player friend, mentioned above, is 2 hours away from me. Which is nice, because I can see him when I want, or when he's in the right mood.

He isnt a cop is he?

I think mine is just too delicate and doesnt know how to handle someone that isnt willing to put up with his crap or someone as aggressive as I am. I wont back down to him.

We havent experienced this issue yet, but I'm happy to know i'm not the only one in this situation, not that it helps either one of us.

I've been reading all of your posts and all I can say is that Thank God I am not part of the singles scene. Too many games!

No, he's not a cop...

Mine is just as hard headed and independent as I am, therefore we are constantly butting heads. He's also moody. I've never been around a man that was as temperamental as he is.

My sister (who usually has pretty good advice) says it's the challenge I'm after. As soon as I get him hooked, I'll get tired of his crap, or bored with him and then dump him. If she's right then I'm just as bad when it comes to games...

I cant figure out what is wrong with mine. When we first started dating, everything was awesome, then I think I was too emotionally slutty for him, and he backed off in to a little "cave" for a couple months and didnt talk. Now he's fine, and talking like there was no gap in time, and that we're both okay.

I'm distancing myself from him this time, and usually when something like that happens when a guy just goes away, I get over the guy really fast. Not this one though, and I dont know why. I didnt get over him, and so now i'm not as emotionally slutty and I'm trying to make him do all the work. I think it is the challenge that I enjoy, because I know that I would get tired of him and dump him. That's horrible especially with all the stuff I'm going through now, but I know it would happen.

Define "emotionally slutty" for me...

Well emotionally slutty could mean a couple different things. It could mean that you gave off too much information about an ex, or past experiences, or in my case it was letting him know where I stood and what I wanted from the relationship, way too early on in the game. Shame on me, BAD ANGIE

Ok, then I'm emotionally slutty. I was afraid of that. I do on occasion give to much info about past relationships..just because I don't want to end up there again. I've also let my player know what I want from a relationship (not necessarily from him) and that I won't settle for less...but yet I am...Shame on me, BAD JEN!

Jen and Angie are emotionally slutty, WOO HOO. I think I got that term off of Sex and the City. I love that show.

So since i'm getting a second chance with this guy, I'm not going to be emotionally slutty anymore. I know what I need to do to stay out of the situation I was in last, and I know what I want but I'm going to keep it to myself and to my friends.