I'm getting better about not bringing up past relationships. But at 31, I'm not backing down on the kind of relationship I want. It's not too much to ask to find Prince Charming, fall madly in love and then live happily ever after is it?

I am in the same boat. I GAVE him his way so that we wouldn't fight, and let myself think maybe someday we would have a relationship, when he was ready of course. Shame on me, BAD CATRINA!! however, I have gotten past him (sort of) and I am working on me.

No, not at all. I'm 25, and I'm doing the same thing. I overthink though. I know that's my problem. For istance, I emailed the cop a card saying, Hi, hope you're feeling better, talk to you soon." I just got the notification that he read it, and I'm sitting here thinking, okay where is my email telling me thank you? Where is my phone call. UGH. That is my problem. Emotionally slutty and a thinker. I'm doomed.

My poor friends are being great about the whole thing too. Let keep listening to me, and telling me that everything is okay. I should make them some cookies. If you tell me the same thing, you'll get cookies too. LOL

Good for you Catrina! Is this the guy that is long distance? My long distance guy was way too pretty, and he knew it too. Women fell all over him, and I had a problem with that. He is the sweetest guy now though, and we're best friends. So if that's what you're working on, good luck. LDR are awesome when you want to work on yourself too. You have the time to be by yourself and figure things out while still being in a relationship---I think, but as you can tell by reading I'm not an expert.

I over analyze everything!!! Makes for a good auditor but crappy girlfriend. For example, he knows I'm sick...knows I went to the doctor this morning and got two different kinds of medicine. Does he call this afternoon and see how I'm doing at work? NO! Why not? Is he not that into me (to quote the book)? I think I deserve flowers...or dinner waiting for me when I get home. We need a pouting Graemlin!

(ok that would be impossible, he doesn't have a key to get in...but it's the thought that counts)

Ladies...the Bar is open...we need to head over there for a drink!

So I was supposed to spend the weekend with him, this weekend, but he tells me that he might have to work. Not a big deal, he's a cop. But he was supposed to know yesterday if he had to work or not. I havent heard from him. He went home sick on Saturday night so I told him that I hoped he got well, and I've let him have his space. The card I sent him was very cute, it just said, "Hi, hope you're feeling better, Talk at you later." NO RESPONSE. Grrr, I'm overthinking right.

I'm sorry yours hasnt called you. Are you feeling okay? I'm sorry you're sick. I read the book, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. It was so good I bought the dating one, I highly recommend it. I think it's bred in to us to overthink everything!

I'm in

Really? Who are you? Who is it? How do you know?

Would the initials be BB?

Angelina, hello. I have been reading your posts, very interesting. I wish you the best. Have you ever analized the type of men you are dating to find common traits? Sometimes there is stuff to learn from this type of analysis.

Don't worry! Just funning with ya, Saphire. It wasn't really hard to figure out by reading some of your posts where this other person is involved. Best of luck.

I was just thinking about that today. He is actually nothing like the guys I usually date. The guys that I had been dating couldn't take care of themselves, and relied on me for everything!!! The Cop is different though. He can take care of himself, so that may be the problem like Jen has. We're both too independent, and I know we're both trying to figure each other out, which wont work.

Wow. This is some very educational reading!! I am soooo taking myself back out of the dating pool.

Saphire, you broke my heart.

I hope Michael P doesn't find his way to this thread. He'd be callin' ya'll a lot more than emotional slutty. You girls be careful out there. Not all guys are as nice as the Pup.

You're right, Jeremy's a sweetie.

Well we had a set back again last night. He has to work this weekend and when I asked him about it he got quiet and I think he's back in his cave again. Any other guy I would have told him to shove off, but I cant with him, and I'm not sure why.

One of the good things about him being around is when we argue like we did last night, motivates me to go to the gym the next day. My clothes are out in my car and I'll be spending 2 hours at the gym tonight trying to figure things out. WOO HOO, more thinking time.

Pup, I dont blame you for taking yourself out of the dating pool, I'm seriously considering it.