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#325753 - 05/02/05 03:19 PM
Re: Dating Troubles
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Could she just have forgotten? I am the Queen of forgetfullness (possibly early onset Alzheimer's) and I find that it ends up hurting people's feelings because they think that I do not care enough about them to remember plans we made or things they have said to me. Maybe she just forgot. Or maybe, she got scared. Being a single mother myself I understand that sometimes reality can be harsh and when I first started dating again after my son was born, I jilted more than a few men... Or maybe she just doesn't like you? Of course, that cannot be the case...I mean look at that cute picture of you! I say just call her up and ask her VERY casually as if nothings wrong. Say something like, Girl - what's with the Alzheimers? I thought we were gonna hang out at that new club on Saturday!  And make it sound non-chalant (sp?).
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#325754 - 05/02/05 04:01 PM
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I agree with the non-chalant phone call suggestion. I always want to know who, what, when, why and where (almost to a fault). THEN...go buy the book we've all been talking about "He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys" and read it.
Were you giving her mixed signals? Was she just not that into you?
I agree that single mom's can be busy...and can let things slip (I call it "Parttimers" instead of the early onset of Alzheimer's) but if I'm that interested you will know. I'm sick of the games so I'm just laying it all out there and if the guy doesn't like it...he's not the one for me.
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#325755 - 05/02/05 06:26 PM
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Okay so this is coming from a girl that just got her feelings hurt. I would cut your losses now. I'm sorry, that sounds harsh. If you're a nice guy, showing interest in her and she is so rude to do that to you, move on. Like I said before though, I just got hurt, so maybe I shouldnt be saying anything, and we should be giving her the benefit of the doubt, so I'm going to be quiet now.
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#325756 - 05/02/05 06:36 PM
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Okay so this is coming from a girl that just got her feelings hurt. I would cut your losses now. I'm sorry, that sounds harsh. If you're a nice guy, showing interest in her and she is so rude to do that to you, move on. Like I said before though, I just got hurt, so maybe I shouldnt be saying anything, and we should be giving her the benefit of the doubt, so I'm going to be quiet now.
I think I'm probably going to follow your advice. I thought she liked me, so not calling me was like a slap in the face. I don't think its harsh.... I live by a basic rule - If she likes you, she'll make it easy.
If you ask me, there is no response that she could give to make me want to go out again. "Just forgetting" just does not make sense to me, so I would never take that as an excuse. I'm also not looking at it as "cutting my losses", I'm looking at it as "better now then later". It's her loss. Just kinda peeves me that's all.
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#325757 - 05/02/05 06:42 PM
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You dont forget someone if you like them. You dont not call them if you like someone. Same with my situation. He lived 2 hours away from me. If he really liked he me would have found some way to come and see me. I'm sorry to have such a negative attitude, but you just dont forget someone if you like them. Sorry Hun.
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#325759 - 05/02/05 06:51 PM
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That's true, sorry to make that generalization, I'm just very bitter.
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#325760 - 05/02/05 06:54 PM
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You might forget that day...but if you really cared you would most likely remember after the fact and call to apologize, right?
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#325761 - 05/02/05 06:57 PM
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RIGHT!
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#325763 - 05/02/05 09:09 PM
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So now, do I -
A). Just say FTB. Act like nothing ever happened, and move on.
2). Try to get a hold of her one last time to find out what happened, but all the time knowing that nothing will ever happen again.
I believe the correct choice is A. Why bother figuring out what was going on with someone who seems to have blown you off? I'd rather not know the excuses.
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#325765 - 05/02/05 09:31 PM
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So now, do I -
A). Just say FTB. Act like nothing ever happened, and move on.
2). Try to get a hold of her one last time to find out what happened, but all the time knowing that nothing will ever happen again.
I believe the correct choice is A. Why bother figuring out what was going on with someone who seems to have blown you off? I'd rather not know the excuses.
I agree with you 100% No games, we established this on like page 5 of this posting, ha, ha, ha
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#325767 - 05/03/05 04:03 PM
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YOU DITCHED A SOX GAME FOR A GIRL!?!?!?!?!?!?!??!?!!?!?!?!?!?!? I will come to see you if you take me to a baseball game, my heck! They're not the Mariners, but I would settle......:)
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#325769 - 05/03/05 05:02 PM
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BRONCOS, ugh. I drank with Jake Plummer, dont know if he still plays for Denver, when he was here going to school at the University of Idaho. He was very cute, I was blinded by his beauty, but he's a donkey too!
I had a date all set up this summer to go to a Rocky's game, but that fell through, FTB (the male version not female version).
I have the Mariners about 10 hours away from me, and there is a Norstrom near Safeco Field. Ever been to Seattle Fraud?
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#325770 - 05/03/05 06:16 PM
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I don't really understand football, but I like the broncos... This weekend, a friend from high school gave my daughter one of her barbies. She was wearing bronco pants, bra and jacket... I would love to see the broncos and raiders play, with the broncos winning of course. It would be fun to laugh in the ex's face... I mean, poor guy, seeing his team lose would break my heart... NOT!!!
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#325771 - 05/03/05 06:52 PM
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One of my Boise State Broncos just signed with Oakland, I think I'd have to cheer for them, sorry Saphire. But your ex is still a dirty b******!
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#325772 - 05/03/05 07:22 PM
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Interesting thread.
Has anyone ever been manipulated into a relationship that they knew was just not right, and then got stuck in it and had a lot of difficulty ending it?
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#325773 - 05/03/05 07:29 PM
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OOOOOHHHH, no, but if you have, please do tell.
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#325775 - 05/03/05 07:48 PM
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OK, I am new here and I can't quite believe that I am going to post this, but - Here is my situation. What I am looking for is whether or not I am being unreasonable.
I have been dating a man from my church for about a year now. The relationship is intimate and I thought that even though we had not out and out discussed it, that it was exclusive. Last week after church he told me that he had invited someone else to a church function on Saturday. He said he wanted to tell me about it so that none of my friends would.
Well, I was very shocked and when I had thought about it for a while, I decided that he had just broken up with me. But on Wednesday night when we were at choir practice he acted like nothing was wrong. Still wanted to hold hands and kiss goodnight and everything. I refused.
Saturday night came and he told one of my friend's husbands that he thought I was mad at him. And that he didn't understand why!
Sunday, I told him that we had a difference of opinion and that I thought that telling me that he was dating another woman was breaking up with me. He told me he had never considered that we had an exclusive relationship. I told him that for me, sex made it exclusive.
Now, he is still acting like I should just get over it.
Sorry for the long post here, but would someone tell me if I am crazy here? Before this, I hadn't dated for a very long time, but I didn't think the rules had changed that much.
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#325777 - 05/03/05 07:54 PM
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I had a date all set up this summer to go to a Rocky's game, but that fell through, FTB (the male version not female version).
Good use of the "FTB". 
Shouldn't it be FTSOB? 
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