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#325928 - 05/20/05 10:13 PM
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Saphire - you need to take the kids out of the picture, and decide is it a HEALTHY relationship? If you see it is... then work on it... If you see it is not - GET OUT NOW.
The kids will recover, and I think it's better to show them that a healthy relationship is the goal, not just sticking it out because you have children.
I've been on both sides, and I would much rather that my daughter know that a healthy relationship is worth a lot of heartache of being alone and broke, than staying in one because I think it better that my kids have a "two parent" home....
You situation sucks, period, there is no easy answer, no easy solution, either way is going to take a lot of work. But look at the whole situation of the things that I saw here, is that he's talking to other people, but not wanting to talk to you about it... Sounds like he would rather have others think you are not available, than to think that you can live your life without him.....
Hang in there sweetie!
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#325929 - 05/21/05 04:44 PM
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Just run away....relationships cause nothing but pain. Sorry I'm a little bitter right now.
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#325930 - 05/22/05 05:05 AM
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Swimware, for the first, and probably the last time, I agree with something you said.
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#325931 - 05/23/05 02:32 PM
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Thanks. Don't hate me because we disagree. I'm really pretty nice in person.
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#325932 - 05/23/05 06:32 PM
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Hey, how does anyone/everyone feel about giving your number out to someone that is drunk? I met a really nice (and hot) guy this weekend but he was drunk, and I dont usually give out my number when they are intoxicated. Maybe I'm the only one that has wondered where I got a phone number from the night before, the next morning.
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#325933 - 05/23/05 06:37 PM
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Angelina, you really do live on the edge... Be a tad more careful, eh? In my single years, I never gave out my home number to anyone, ever, that I had met in a bar. I have given out my work number on occasion; but after some guy stalked me and kept leaving notes on my car and popping up in the lot, I got nervous and always gave out wrong numbers. (Actually, I thought that was funny, because I made the numbers up; I wonder what the recipient of the call thought...  )
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#325934 - 05/23/05 06:53 PM
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I'm extremely cautious when giving out numbers...and don't do it at the bar. A girlfriend once told me that all a guy needs is your full name and home town. If they want to call bad enough they can get your number (information). After that I quit giving it out...well except for last month, but that was an reasonable exception.
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#325935 - 05/23/05 06:57 PM
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#325936 - 05/23/05 07:04 PM
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My best friend flew in from Seattle and they went to college together. Odds are that I'll never see him again, but if he really wanted to track me down, he could talk to her to get my number. I'm trying to be more careful, but it gets boring 
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#325939 - 05/24/05 01:10 PM
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The questions I would ask myself if I were in your situation are as follow:
1. How much time have I invested in this relationship?
2. How much energy have I invested in this relationship?
These two questions are irrelevant and the answers should not be a factor in your decision. The time and energy you've committed are gone. They're in the past and nothing you do will get them back, so they don't matter. I hate to make a science out of it, but in economics, they call it a "sunk cost." Costs you incurred and no matter what decision you make, they're gone. I think that same concept applies here as well...
Very good point. Investment vs. Expense.
I think sometimes people look at time being an investment instead of an expense. I guess you have to decide which way you want to look at it to determine whether or not to proceed and try to retrieve a broken relationship.
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#325940 - 05/24/05 01:52 PM
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Hey, how does anyone/everyone feel about giving your number out to someone that is drunk? I met a really nice (and hot) guy this weekend but he was drunk, and I dont usually give out my number when they are intoxicated. Maybe I'm the only one that has wondered where I got a phone number from the night before, the next morning.
Bad idea. Drunk men tend to show affection and interest in anything wearing a skirt. Its better that you give him a note that says: See you next Friday, Joe's Bar, 10 pm. Then go there with a girlfriend. If he shows up, you can introduce yourself as the girl who gave him the note. If he doesn't, have a drink with your girlfriend. This is better than having him call and you go out with him on the date from he!! (Hell for either you or him that is).
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#325941 - 05/24/05 02:48 PM
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Very good point Anon! You rock, that's an awesome idea, why didnt I think of that?  And Fraud, with all of your invites that you keep sending out to women to move to OK, you're going to be overwhelmed when we all show up on your door step one morning.
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#325944 - 05/24/05 04:27 PM
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I have a friend that is a travel agent. Ladies, just say the word and I have the hook up
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#325945 - 05/24/05 04:48 PM
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ROAD TRIP!!!!
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#325947 - 05/24/05 06:55 PM
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How ironic for this thread:
"Date, or date not -- there is no 'let's just friends be'."
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#325948 - 05/24/05 06:55 PM
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"Get in there you big furry oaf, I don't care what you smell!"
I'm sorry - that's just wrong!
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#325949 - 05/24/05 06:58 PM
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No way I'd ever use this one!
"I've discovered a whole new way to create a clone! Let's go back to my place and I'll show you."
ICK!
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#325950 - 05/24/05 06:59 PM
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I like my Star Wars Horoscope a lot better!!
Star Wars Horoscope for Libra
You are on a lifelong pursuit of justice and determined to succeed.
You convey the art of persuasion through force.
You always display your supreme intelligence.
You have a great talent in obtaining balance between yourself and your surroundings.
Star wars character you are most like: Obi Wan Kenobie
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#325951 - 05/24/05 07:49 PM
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Is that a double sided light saber in your hand or are you happy to see me?
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#325952 - 05/24/05 09:14 PM
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Mine was...
"In time, you will call me.......Master"
YYYEEESSSSSSS!!!!!! That is awesome
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