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#467715 - 12/08/05 05:42 PM
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As a guy, it would not be a problem to me if you were up front at the beginning and say that you are seeing other people. It's when I find out later in any type of relationship that you were not exclusive when that becomes a problem.
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#467716 - 12/08/05 05:42 PM
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Well, this one time many years ago, I was dating two girls at the same time. I thought I was super smart because they were both named Rosie... (ya know, cause I never called either one by the wrong name)needless to say it didn't work out in the end... One Rose found out about the other and I think I was called every word that cannot be said here plus more in differnet languages...  My advise, make sure you're guys are pretty dumb... Cause when it hits the fan, it really hits the fan.
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#467717 - 12/08/05 05:47 PM
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dip, i think its fine if its like 1 or 2 dates but after that i think it would be better to narrow it down to one guy or make sure you tell them
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#467718 - 12/08/05 05:47 PM
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Not a problem until things get more serious with one of them. Then be clear whether the relationship is getting serious or not, and which of you is getting more serious. If he is and you're not, he should be told that you are dating other guys. If you are and he's not, find out your chances. If he does not intend to get serious, then don't tie yourself to this one. Did I totally confuse you? I have reread this several times, but can't think of a better way to say it. 
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#467719 - 12/08/05 05:49 PM
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had to read it twice but it did make sense lol
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#467722 - 12/08/05 05:52 PM
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I dated two guys also, both with the same name. It made it difficult when i received a note on my car to come by. I didnt know which one left the note, so I went to the one that I had dated the shortest time. It wasnt him and he thought nothing of it when I just dropped by to see what he was doing and then I left. Never said anything about the note. so then I went to see the one who left the note. Neither of them ever knew. Now that I look back, that wasnt fair and I wouldnt want to be treated that way.
It would be nice to know up front. What if you ran into one of them while you were out with the other? Ooops! That wouldnt look good unless you told them up front. HOnesty is the best policy in my book. Good luck to you. Im sure you will make the right decision.
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#467723 - 12/08/05 05:53 PM
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I used to date a few chicks at once until one time I got caught. We were dating for awhile and although I made it clear I was dating other people. The girl didn't yell, she cried. It wasn't the crying that chocolate will cure, it was the kind of crying where every person who talked to her for two weeks thought I was a jack. I even felt bad. She was a sweet girl too. Looking back I shouldn't have strung her along like that. To this day I won't so much as look at another girl when i'm dating someone.
Personally I wouldn't date a girl who was seeing someone else as there are a million single women out there. No need to fight. I wouldn't recommend dating more than one person, but I would advice to be careful if you do because it won't turn out good in the end. It's a recipe for disaster!
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#467724 - 12/08/05 05:53 PM
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I agree with Nanwa. If it's just a date, then so be it. If one of the guys is your "boyfriend", then another date would probably not be the best idea.
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#467727 - 12/08/05 06:02 PM
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Is it slutty to date more than one guy at a time? I'm not talking about sleeping with them, but just going out on dates. Should you tell the guys you are dating that you are also seeing other people, or just not say anything and let them think whatever they think? Just looking for some advice and anecdotes 
If your not sleeping with them, then whats the problem? like you said, your dating. So date, in no way does this commit you to one person. Not until your ready, until you've found the person who makes you happiest out of the bunch. Once you've found someone around your age, what you find attractive, can show you a good time, even adventurous, can be silly, and take care of you during sickness and health, THAN I would say limit your street walking skills to one person. Until then, feel free to enjoy life like god intended you too. My sister says the best way to meet someone is to not look, just hang out.. Everything else will fall into place. Hanging out is really the key, that's what a relationship is based off of, friendship. How well from the beginning do you get along with your date/friend. Girls know with in the first date if your giving him a kiss/another shot at the end of the night. Why do you think guys don't talk all that much during a date, or talk to much, we/I don't want to screw things up for ourselves. We men are idiots when it comes to talking to an attractive girl, anything not to screw it up. Ive gone on long enough. best of luck, so should I call you?
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#467728 - 12/08/05 06:06 PM
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I don't see a problem with it if you are just hanging out, but when you get a little serious with one, it is time to call it quits with the other one.
I mean I have like 4 or 5 guys right now and it is just great.
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#467729 - 12/08/05 06:06 PM
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the best way to meet someone is to not look, just hang out..
I tried this but was arrested for lude behavior. Also too cold to do it this time of year (the worst kind of frostbite -- ouch!)
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#467730 - 12/08/05 06:08 PM
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that applies more to girls because men will approach them, a guy "hanging out" isnt going to get very far unless hes brad pitt
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#467733 - 12/08/05 06:30 PM
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I agree with Nanwa. Years ago I was dating 3 woman at the same time and I did not tell any of them of the others. They all had different personalities and I liked something about each of them. Eventually, when I started getting stronger feelings for one over the others I ended it with the them. (That and I was running out of money for the dates ) As a guy I have to admit if I was dating someone and they said they were dating others I would be uncomfortable and wouldn't want to date her. I would feel as though I was being compared and I was in a competition for her affection. That and I would be wondering if she was kissing the other guy just hours before or perhaps something else. Not worth the hassle to tell you the truth. Keep a day planner and don't mix things up.
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#467734 - 12/08/05 06:32 PM
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so what if the one of the guys said to date other guys because he knows he is busy a lot--you think he means it and would want to hear if i did decide to do it?
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#467735 - 12/08/05 06:34 PM
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I don't see a problem with it...
Ok Dipitous, Slick says it's ok, so you and I can date now.
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#467737 - 12/08/05 06:37 PM
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so what if the one of the guys said to date other guys because he knows he is busy a lot--you think he means it and would want to hear if i did decide to do it?
I for one, say what I mean (well, not always here, but that's another story). If he says to go ahead and date other guys, go ahead. If he doesn't like it later, he only has himself to blame.
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#467738 - 12/08/05 06:50 PM
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so what if the one of the guys said to date other guys because he knows he is busy a lot--you think he means it and would want to hear if i did decide to do it?
Hes trying to get rid of you, hes just being nice about it. The guys to busy to hang out with you, either he is, or hes not into you. Those are the only two choices, you choose what you want to believe.
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