It's likely that what you're hearing is an examiner's concept of a good idea, and probably not anything that's risen to the level of an FDIC concept of a "best business practice." If the latter status had been attained, it's likely the FDIC would have issued some kind of official comment by now.
At any rate, the comment will probably not end up in any part of your examination report. If it does, it most definitely should not make the "apparent violations" section. While the idea may have merit as a business practice, it isn't required, and there may be significant reasons (cost, technology, etc.) that your bank might decide not to adopt it.
Before you get your back up with the examiner, find out where he or she is going with this. It may be nothing more than a thought to be shared with you. If that's so, you're likely to be getting lathered up over nothing here, and copping an unnecessary attitude with the examination team.
As for your question/comment about consumers' assuming responsibility for their own actions -- I think you'll find broad agreement in the banking community. Unfortunately, it seems to be terribly out of fashion, particularly in the more Liberal regions of the country, such as that in which you and I find ourselves working.
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